(cover picture: Vanessa Paradis in the French comedy « the Heartbreaker »)
For most Anglophones, the word seduction conjures images of a sexual nature, such as a woman giving a come-hither look to the men across a crowded bar…
Seduction to the French is not just about attracting the opposite sex, but being attractive in general. It’s less about a specific goal and more about a way of living, a way of feeling self-confident. To me, the art of being a seductive woman in today’s society is about cultivating its own style and not copying the models in fashion magazines. Finding our own style can take time and still, we often ask ourselves : Do I make the most of my wardrobe? Do I always choose the right clothes for me? How do I mix and match my clothes? How can I change my flaws into qualities? All kind of questions I answer in my Training Program.
Elaine Sciolino, a Paris correspondent for the The New York Times noticed that French women approach seduction differently than others do : « they believe that keeping things under wraps adds an element od enticement to interactions with a man. Mystery, seduction, and maybe a little subterfuge, anything to keep the other party interested and always guessing« …
French women limit what they expose to their man, and that drives up lust—for example, if your boyfriend sees your lady parts all the time, eventually, he’ll become desensitized and stop fantasizing about ripping off your clothes to get a peek. “Most French women keep an air of mystery about themselves, even if they’ve been with someone for a long time,” Sciolino says. It’s important to keep its own secret garden…
Another point is : “French women are playful in conversations,” Sciolino says. Send a text to get your guy thinking in a risqué way without being overtly sexual (try a photo of the edge of your bare hip with the message, “Just a preview…”). That’s what makes him crave you intensely.
Don’t Forget the Naughty Details Sciolino also points out that most women tend to save sexy extras like nice lingerie, a scarf, and perfume for special occasions. In contrast, French women incorporate those things into their daily lives.
French women love perfume. They believe that perfume tells a lot about your personality, Sciolino says, so find a signature daily scent and your guy will come to associate you with this sensual smell. Because musky fragrances have pheromones, they’ll lend you a temptress vibe.
It can make you smell good, elevate your mood and boost your confidence— all important factors when it comes to making a good first impression.
The ultimate French trick to steal? Sciolino calls it The Look: a sexually charged stare where you lock eyes for a few seconds, give a little half smile, and then glance away. Incredibly powerful !